Often times, we are taught (as children, youth or young adults) to believe one way or another. These beliefs can be powerful as we grow up and form adult relationships. We tend to act out based on the belief. For example, I was taught that I always had to “work” on someone in order for them to love me.

We act (whether physical, verbal, emotional or otherwsie) on that belief. If you were abandoned often as a child, you might live in fear and experience anxiety if a partner doesn’t return your call. For me, my actions always leaned towards choosing men who were “projects”. They always needed to be fixed somehow.